In a girl chat, a friend said “when she looked back at the men and relationships she had labored and invested so much in, in the past, she seemed not to get the reason why she was with those men and why she had to suffer to make them work.”All that came to mind for me was one of my favorite country songs by Garth Brooks, “Unanswered Prayers”.Certain people are sent into our lives to teach us priceless lessons. And because it is part of God’s plan, our prayers to avoid the experience gets unanswered but in all honesty, it is happening for our good.“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord in the Holy Writ. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts”.Have you prayed for your partner or relationship in the past that didn’t get God’s answers? Now, what is the situation of the person? If God had answered your prayers, then what would have been the story today?A good friend of mine Martha said, “thank God I didn’t marry my ex-fiancée”. I was surprised because this was a relationship that took her years to build and it also took a toll on her when it ended. She was admitted for two weeks in a hospital to regain her sanity. She was practically dancing and thanking God that He didn’t answer her prayers then.Why would she be grateful today that they didn’t end up together?This passage of scripture came to mind: “brothers, consider the time of your calling: Not many of you were wise by human standards; not many were powerful; not many were of noble birth. But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise”. God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. He chose the lowly and despised things of the world and the things that are not, to nullify the things that are.When it feels like God is silent, He is working overtime on your issues. When God seems quiet about an issue bothering you, don’t worry because He cares too much about you to ignore your case. He knows what best for you and He has time and season in His hands.I once complained to my dad about my heart desires being delayed and my very realistic father says, “Do you want to live long enough to enjoy your dream come true? Then thank God for every stage; you can’t rush God because He has a perfect plan.” Can we learn to be grateful for some requests we made to God in our prayers that weren’t answered? We pray for love but insist on a particular person; we go as far as fasting and doing all the most. I have learned that some of God greatest gifts are our unanswered prayers.He answers our prayer because He cares so much about us; when he doesn’t answer, it is not an indication that He doesn’t care. It simply means He has a better option for you. Is it possible that the man or woman wasn’t good for you? Think about it; there has to be a reason why what is happening is happening. Some prayers will never get answered; some heart desires will never see the light of the day. Some challenges will never pass till you experience it. If it’s obvious God is quiet about the issue, it is because God has handled it differently.